Self appreciation is one of the foundations for a happy life.
So why not go right now in front of the mirror and say...
Hey, I think you’re fantastic, I absolutely appreciate & like you!
I love & respect you! (then blink at yourself)
Joking aside, Go on do that!
Self appreciation is saying thank you to ourselves,
for all the things that we usually compliment others...
When we are praised for 8 things & criticized for only 2,
we tend to focus on the criticized points...
Let's go below and discover more...
What Is Introspection In Psychology?
(Self Appreciation & Introspection Connection)
Introspection plain definition is to look inward and
reflect your inner thoughts.
By applying introspection you can define what really you're appreciating and enjoy in your life.
Introspection can be a great source of personal knowledge.
Self appreciation, means we appreciate ourselves not because
we’re better than others, but because all people possess goodness.
Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism, once wrote,
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince
Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need
When one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
Plato asked, "why should we not calmly and patiently review our
own thoughts & thoroughly examine them?
You might ask yourself...
What do I appreciate about myself most?
What matters most in my life?
Researchers have shown that we think more than 50,000 thoughts
per day, of which more than half are negative and more
than 90% are just repeats from the day before (Wood, 2013).
If you don’t take the time and effort to refocus your mind and
combat those distorting thoughts you won't give yourself
the opportunity to develop and grow.
Self-help books can be helpful here and point you in the correct direction and through some form of self-evaluation you can decide
to change your behavior and attitude to certain situations in your life.
Love who you are without having to pretend you are someone
you are not.
We all want to feel special, but we are not.
Bragging about your achievements is as self-centered
as feeling pity for your problems.
Self Appreciation is about consciously acknowledging the positive within you, without the need to compare yourself to others.
Practicing positive self-talk and being more appreciative
can expand your inner-perception, you create new
neural pathways that lead to positive thoughts.
Things To Be Grateful For
Being grateful & Appreciating who you are is the secret for
a strong foundation, you can build on top of what you already are.
Here are some examples:
Your Mind- Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.
Be grateful for your mind.
Your Heart- Be grateful & respect the work your heart is providing for you!
If it were to stop even for 15 seconds to rest, your life
could be in danger.
Your Heartbreaks- Each heartbreak made your heart stronger,
wiser, more experienced.
Your heartbreaks taught you to bounce back & cultivate
more alone time to grow as a person.
To create friendships and to invest more time with your close friends.
Your Parents- Even if have your disagreements, they gave you life.
Be grateful to your parents for their support, their encouragement,
for their strength and unconditional love.
Be grateful for the opportunity to live, that they gave you.
Your Strength- The time when you supported your friend in despair,
that time you smiled for the family photo when all you wanted
to do was to cry, but you didn’t.
Be grateful for your strength to face your troubles and
overcome life's obstacles.
The more you appreciate your well-being,
the more you’ll prioritize it.
Be grateful for your health, because there are many people right now unable to do the things they love in their life because of their health.
Having a Home-Whether you live in an apartment, house or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be grateful for.
Ability to Read- If you’re reading this right now, you have
a lot to be grateful for.
Remember there are people who are born blind.
Breathing Fresh Air- Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder of how many little things we should be grateful for.
Clean Water- Many people on earth lack access to clean water.
Be grateful that you're lucky to not have to stress yourself
every day how to supply your basic need for water.
You can express yourself in so many ways,
here are some starters you can use:
Being appreciative of yourself is as simple as using
kind words on yourself.
Change how you speak to yourself.
Think of the language you would use when you are being appreciative of someone else.
When you forget to do something, instead of beating yourself,
why not appreciate all the times when you did remember
to do the things you plan to do?
We tend to focus on our mistakes and forget all the times
when we were doing things right.
Being aware of how you speak to yourself will help you
to appreciate yourself more. (From Nerdy Creator)
Gratitude Journal Benefits
By practicing self appreciation you experience the opportunity
to become closer in recognizing your own inner values, and
as a way to heal your spiritual and emotional well being.
Write all the small things you're grateful & appreciate
about yourself daily.
Things I did well today?
What do I love about myself?
What have other people complimented me about?
Usually, I do my gratitude in the night, 1-2 hours before I go to sleep.
In that way, I fill my mind with positive thoughts and actions
I did during the day and sleep like a baby afterward.
(I use Daily Greatness journal)
Make it a habit to write 4-5 minutes every day and take notice &
enjoy the benefits of how it positively affects your mood and behavior.
Put Things In Perspective
The key is having balance and perspective so that we can see ourselves without distortion.
William James, one of the founding fathers of Western psychology, wrote: “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
We can meet this essential need without depending on other people
to approve of us.
When we treat ourselves with the same kindness with which
we treat our good friends, we’ll have the support and care
required to help us thrive.
Use positive affirmations constantly in your journal and eliminate negative thoughts by writing them down, and then counter punch
them by writing 3 better perspective self appreciating thoughts.
There's a Mindful Expression guide directed from
the master Jon Kabat-Zinn, starting 28 October,
you can check here.
Self Worth Definition
Self-worth means believing that you’re fundamentally
worthy as a person.
The Cambridge dictionary defines self-worth as:
“The value you give to your life and achievements.”
Self-worth is a deep value belief you have in yourself, about yourself.
It has an enormous connection with self appreciation.
The first step in building self-worth is to stop comparing yourself
to others and challenging your critical inner voice.
The critical inner voice is like a nasty coach in your head that constantly yells at you that you're worthless or undeserving
of happiness and all sorts of destructive thoughts.
This internalized dialogue of critical thoughts or “inner voices” determines your sense of self-worth and may lead to self-destructive behaviors, which make us feel worse about ourselves.
(Read here If you're experiencing low self-esteem signs)
All of this is mostly shaped from painful childhood experiences and critics we were exposed to early in life, or having abusive people around us and accepting their feelings and destructive points of view.
One study at the University of Michigan found that college students who base their self-worth on external sources (appearance & approval from others) reported more stress, anxiety, anger, academic problems & relationship conflicts.
They also had higher levels of alcohol and drug use.
Some ways to increase your self-worth are:
-Adding meaning to your life, by taking part in activities that
you feel are important.
-Helping others has a massive boost to your self-worth.
-Practice regularly, eat healthy and wake up early.
-Generosity and volunteering have a proven positive effect
on your physical and mental health.
Here are some empowering quotes to read on when you
have those self-doubt or low self worth moments in your life.
These are my guides and go-to quotes,
when I need to remind myself to be appreciative.
Self Appreciation is a sign of maturity, seeking appreciation is a sign of immaturity.
What lies behind us and what lies before us
are tiny matters compared to
what lies within us.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson-
If you really want to change society,
encourage Self Appreciation.
Self Worth Quotes
Strong people have a strong sense of
self-worth and self-awareness,
they don’t need the approval of others.
-Roy T. Bennett-
When you undervalue what you do,
the world will undervalue who you are.
If you forgive someone for something they
did to you, it doesn’t mean you agree with
what they did or believe it was right.
Forgiving that person means you have chosen not to dwell on the matter anymore...
You have moved on with your life.
Just imagine how much you'll appreciate yourself when you
exercise to be kind, to love & respect yourself more.
You'll even start to attract people and circumstances to you
that support your well-being and energy.
Like anything in life, consider Self Appreciation a skill that
you can acquire and implement in your everyday living.
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