Self discipline is crucial towards accomplishing some of your biggest goals in life!
Imagine what you could accomplish if you simply discipline yourself daily to follow through on your best intentions.
The bad news is that we're born without self discipline, the good news is that it's a learned skill, added in our behavior over time.
What Does Self Discipline Mean?
It's a super skill and it feels great once you get a little taste of how little changes in your behavior can do wonders for you!
Self discipline is the ability to control yourself and to make yourself work hard or behave in a particular way without needing anyone else to tell you what to do.
It's like a muscle.
The more you train it, the stronger you become.
The less you train it, the weaker you become.
Self Discipline begins with the control of your thoughts.
If you do not control what you think, you cannot control
what you do.
Simply, discipline enables you to think first and then act.
Self Discipline Definition
Definition by Cambridge dictionary: The ability to make yourself do things you know you should do even when you do not want to.
For me, when I developed some basic self discipline, I started
to take care of and respect my body more by working out & running, eating the right food,
quit smoking after 9 failed attempts over the past 3 years, find time to read more, write consistently, and finally, after procrastinating for 8 months wrote Self Awareness Quest,
e-book I've published on Amazon.
I'm far from perfect and still make mistakes, but I've learned
a lot along the way.
Self discipline is followed by resilience, grit, self-control,
Psychology Today says,
“A resilient person has a belief in her own abilities to manage life’s challenges and situations effectively.”
According to a study by Stanford University, the amount of willpower a person has is determined by their beliefs.
If you believe you have a limited amount of willpower, you probably won’t surpass those limits.
If you don’t place a limit on your self-control, you are less likely
to exhaust yourself before meeting your goals.
In short, it may be that our internal conceptions about willpower and self-control determine how much of them we have.
If you can remove these subconscious obstacles and truly believe you can do it, then you will give yourself an extra boost of motivation toward making those goals a reality.
Benefits of Self Discipline
The benefits are a better quality of life, harmony, peace, better mental health & overall higher
Nobody enjoys being miserable, sad, and unhappy all the time.
It's difficult to have a relationship with someone who lacks discipline and causes pain and suffering.
You will find that toxic individuals who lack self discipline are
on a path of self-destruction.
Don't expect yourself to be good at anything without consistent hard-work.
You need the self-discipline to follow your plan, stick to
the schedule and repeat it until you get the desired results.
It's a hard thing to do, but remember this would either make or break you because you command your own life.
By becoming more responsible and disciplined, you achieve stability in your life, and from there the benefits of consistent
and long-term self discipline are limitless.
Usually, this is easier to people with a growth mindset,
because people with fixed mindset tend to quit early and often.
See which mindset you currently have by using this QUIZ.
“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all,
one must first discipline and control one’s own mind.
If a man can control his mind he can find the way
to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will
naturally come to him.”
How to Develop Self Discipline?
Embrace A Routine
Habits are incredibly powerful.
Routines enable you to handcraft good habits that actually help
you get work done and they drastically reduce the number of decisions you have to make on a given day.
Focus on one thing and follow it through
You can’t just force yourself to make massive changes overnight.
Your brain isn’t set up that way.
Focus on one thing you want to desperately improve on and make that the one thing you do every day, no matter what.
Stick with it, become super disciplined in seeing it through and never procrastinate on this one thing.
Get in the mindset that no matter what happens to you,
you'll follow through until it's done.
Leonardo Da Vinci took 16 years to finish the painting of Mona Lisa.
Limit External Motivation
Your major source of motivation should be from within, not from motivational podcasts or videos.
(you tend to become lazy after
1-2 hours listening or watching)
Don't get me wrong here... I love watching motivational videos
on Youtube, but it can be tricky...
Because there were times in the past I'll spend 3-4 hours only watching and consuming those videos, the smart youtube algorithm will come up with more
suggested must-watch videos and in no time I was feeling overwhelmed having no idea why...
So the best approach is to ask yourself why you want to do that
new habit or behavior, find 2-3 strong reasons and just start.
Behave Like The Top 3%
Time block your entire life in 30-minute chunks.
100% of the most successful people on earth have their entire
To-do lists are great for initial planning, and once you have your list, your job is to then take those tasks and actually schedule
times during your day, week, or month to actually do them.
Try this for at least 2 weeks and see if it suits you.
Learn to say no to some of your feelings, impulses & urges.
Train yourself to do what you know to be right, even if you
don't feel like doing it.
(in the beginning, you won't feel like doing it for sure)
Skip dessert some evenings; limit your TV watching; be self-aware and resist the urge to yell at someone who has irritated you; stop and think before you act.
When you practice self-restraint consistently it helps you
develop the habit of keeping other things under control.
And you know it that we feel much better when we're keeping things under control.
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Don't Wait For It to Feel Right
If you wait for your schedule to be perfect, for the time to be right so you can go for a run, your desk to be clutter-free, or your inbox to reach a manageable level, you might never get started on the work that needs to be done.
Embrace every moment as having just what you need
to do your best work.
Remember that your thoughts, negative or positive, become your reality whether you want it or not.
To control your thoughts you must train your mind with
the right stimuli, with empowering thoughts and success stories.
Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit, explains
that habit behaviors are traced to a part of the brain called the basal ganglia, a portion of the brain associated with emotions, patterns, and memories.
Decisions, on the other hand, are made in the prefrontal cortex,
a completely different area.
When a behavior becomes habit, we stop using our decision-making skills and instead function on auto-pilot.
Therefore, breaking a bad habit and building a new habit not only requires us to make active decisions, it will feel wrong.
Your brain will resist the change in favor of what it has been programmed to do... the solution?
Embrace the wrong and acknowledge that it will take a while for your new regime
to feel right or natural.
Be self-appreciative, forgive yourself for past mistakes,
let go of regrets and keep moving forward.
Manage Your Emotions
Analyze your logical and emotional signals your brain is producing by being mindful and meditate.
Meditate at least 10 minutes a day, to quiet the mind,
gain serenity, suppress regrets and to cultivate gratitude.
Also, control your facial expressions better because you might give wrong signals to
your brain that'll produce
Additionally, try to handle stressful situations, and toxic individuals in a healthy manner.
Be Self Aware
This allows you to monitor your behavior in various situations
and to assess your strengths and weaknesses, and also
to find your purpose.
Get to know yourself at a deeper level, increase your confidence, become more self-aware and quiet your ego by being aware of your everyday thoughts.
Start investing in your personal growth, read books and don't let setbacks to drain you mentally.
See your current level of self-awareness with this QUIZ.
Find what are the things that immediately attract your attention
or go back to the memories of your childhood and recall
what you did great.
Suggested Read: What Is Self Awareness?
Quotes on Self Discipline
To achieve any goal you have, there are only three things you need a clear vision for what it is you want, a plan to get there,
and massive action consistently repeated over time!
(If you need help while creating and setting your goals, check out Brian Tracy's amazing course on planning and goals)
Remember to stay true to yourself, listen to your inner self
and what is that you truly want to accomplish and go strong from there!
The big secret to self discipline is you carefully choose what you'll do and You do it every day.
Question for you...
What obstacles are stopping you to become more self disciplined?
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