making excuses often, even when there is no need for one
There was a time in my life when I will discredit or disqualify anything positive that I did and focus only on the things that needed to be done, finished or upcoming.
That created frustration and low self esteem in myself, at the time I wasn’t even aware of.
Then my mentor at that time, after talking with him about my difficulties, said one profound sentence I’ll remember forever.
He Said: When you stop discrediting things that go well & stop dwelling on stuff that doesn’t go so well, you are less likely to experience some signs of low self-esteem, to be frustrated or suffer.
He was 100% right I figured later on… like 7 months later.
How to Overcome Low Self Esteem?
Self Reflections Questions
Make a list of all your talents, assets including skills, experiences, physical and social resources & anything else that makes you feel good about yourself.
Add to the list the compliments that others have given you as well.
Ask your close people what they think your 3 unique strengths are?
Printing a page with all the qualities you possess and sticking that paper where you spend most of your time is not a bad idea at all! Reminding yourself of all your assets is a sure confidence booster.
Ways of Improving Self Esteem
People with signs of low self-esteem don’t really take care of themselves. If you have low self esteem you might forget to shower for days, not brushing your teeth,dress very poorly, eating a lot of junk food, alcohol & drugs use etc.
You know this is not good for you, and you doing it anyway because you feel you’re not worth taking care of.
The problem in behavior like this is as time goes on, your body & brain will feel worse & worse and this is why it’s called downfall pattern, where you feel that there is only one direction.
But it’s important to acknowledge that in every situation, Life offers multiple ways we can choose from.
You can Grab a paper and write all the things you’re currently doing that can potentially destroy or harm you in the long run, or you feel are bothering you.( Write Minimum 5)You’re doing this because many people today don’t know their biggest problems until they write them.Next, ask yourself what will happen if for 20 days you start doing some practical tips, such as:
You can’t change something if you don’t recognize that there is something to change. By simply aware of our negative self-talk, we begin to distance ourselves from the feelings it brings up.
Without this awareness, we can easily fall into the trap of believing our self-limiting talk.
But let’s not forget THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS!
As soon as you find yourself going down the path of self-doubt, or criticism, gently analyze what’s happening, be curious about it, and remind yourself, These are thoughts, not facts.
One of the reasons people have signs of low self-esteem to begin with, is due to the thoughts that constantly heckle & harass in their head.
BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF WORTH
Simply make yourself priority some of the time.
Think of something you want to do, achieve, accomplish.
Give yourself permission to say no,
Ask for what you want ASSERTIVELY (or learn to communicate Assertively if you don’t know already.)
Create yourself to be in a position to make it happen.
Be prepared to tolerate disappointing others for the sake of recognizing that you matter and taking care of yourself.
You might be the type of person who constantly says to themselves, nobody loves me, nobody wants to be my friend, I’m worthless etc.
This type of self-talk is the reason why we feel so poorly about ourselves.
These thoughts over time have convinced you that all of this is true, and that’s because if you listen to the same line over and over again, you start to believe it.
Sometimes automatic thoughts like ‘you’re fat’ or ‘you’re lazy’ can be repeated in your mind so often that you start to believe they are true.
The more times a thought is repeated, the more you will believe it to be true.
Self Esteem Books
Here I’ll recommend some of the books I’ve read when I had those signs of low self-esteem back in 2017, and really impacted me, opened new doors for my mind & how I think and behave.
The Self-Esteem Workbook – Glen Schiraldi He said self-esteem is highly correlated to overall highly life satisfaction and happiness around the world. Self-Esteem was ranked higher as a motivatior, than any other variable, after completing a long survey.
In this book he talks how to face the reality of your circumstances and realizing your purpose in life. Breaking free from toxic environments and forgiving those…including yourself, who’ve harmed you… and learning how to guard yourself against the pitfalls of life.
I loved the revolutionary 3-step Deserving Process, and he’s sharing some practical tips you can try right on to improve your self-esteem.
Self Esteem Quotes
Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao-Tzu
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Gustav Jung
“The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.” – Robert Hand
Eat like you love yourself, Move like you love yourself, Speak like you love yourself, Act like your love yourself!
You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.” – Yogi Bhajan
Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” – Roy T. Bennett
Destroy the signs of low self-esteem
People with Good Self Esteem believe they are valuable and important, that’s why they take good care of themselves.
They make good decisions about themselves which raise their value rather than break it down.
When you start to take care of yourself & value yourself, guess what opinion others or most of them will have on You?
That’ll surely help you to go further and create the best possible Self-Image of yourself.
DEEP DOWN INSIDE YOUR HEART, YOU KNOW YOU’RE WORTH MUCH MORE
I strongly recommend if you have deeper problems and signs of low self-esteem, to read –Feeling Good by David Burns. That was the book that unlock my self-worth, and David is Fenomenal Psychiatrist!
You will learn more about your Thoughts, Emotions, Behaviors & how it’s all connected with each other.
Additional for all Individuals who plan to Advance in life, I recommend this course Extraordinary Success (link) from Jack Canfield.
Share your experience in the comments, Have you facing some signs of low self-esteem in your life? similar difficulties… You never know whom you might help..
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