All of us will experience some signs of low self-esteem in
some periods of our lifetime.
The real question is how you’ll approach & deal with them.
Below you’ll see in-depth analysis on how to cope and handle
the signs of low self-esteem, how to cultivate your self-worth
and be more self-aware towards having better emotional life!
What Does Self Esteem Mean?
Self-esteem is the way people think about themselves, and how worthwhile they feel.
If you take a close look at your life & your habits, you may realize
that the way you live your life screams “I have low self esteem.”
But knowing the signs of low self-esteem it the first step toward improving and finding the inner strength to live a
life that makes you fulfilled.
For Start, there are 3 Basic parts to your self-esteem:
- Body Image,
- Self Acceptance.
1. Self-Image is your mental picture of yourself.
These images include your physical characteristics,
your strengths & your weaknesses & your skills.
Self-image is influenced by experiences and interactions with others,
and usually, takes time to develop.
2. Body Image is the way you feel about your physical self /body when you mentally picture yourself or look in the mirror.
3. Self Acceptance is individual satisfaction or content with oneself.
The mind will believe what the individual repeatedly says or think.
Effects of Low Self Esteem
- see failures and negative aspects of their life as weaknesses,
instead of bearing lessons to be learned
- worry what may others think of them,
- inability to accept compliments
- vulnerable to peer-pressure
- tend to engage in unhealthy behaviors more frequently than others.
- social withdrawal
- Anxiety turmoil
- worry how others are perceiving them
- Reluctance to trust your own opinion
- making excuses often, even when there is no need for one
- Eating disorders
There was a time in my life when I will discredit or disqualify anything positive that I did and focus only on the things that needed to be done, finished or upcoming.
That created frustration and low self esteem in myself,
at the time I wasn’t even aware of.
Then my mentor at that time, after talking with him about my difficulties, said one profound sentence I’ll remember forever.
He Said: When you stop discrediting things that go well & stop
dwelling on stuff that doesn’t go so well, you are less likely
to experience some signs of low self-esteem, to be frustrated or suffer.
He was 100% right I figured later on… like 7 months later.
How to Overcome Low Self Esteem?
Self Reflections Questions
- Make a list of all your talents, assets including skills, experiences, physical and social resources & anything else that makes you feel good about yourself.
- Add to the list the compliments that others have given you as well.
- Ask your close people what they think your 3 unique strengths are?
Printing a page with all the qualities you possess and sticking that paper where you spend most of your time is not a bad idea at all!
Reminding yourself of all your assets is a sure confidence booster.
Ways of Improving Self Esteem
People with signs of low self-esteem don’t really take care of themselves.
If you have low self esteem you might forget to shower for days, not brushing your teeth, dress very poorly, eating a lot of junk food, alcohol & drug use, etc.
You know this is not good for you, and you doing it anyway because
you feel you’re not worth taking care of.
The problem in behavior like this is as time goes on, your body & brain will feel worse & worse and this is why it’s called downfall pattern, where you feel that there is only one direction.
But it’s important to acknowledge that in every situation,
Life offers multiple ways we can choose from.
- You can grab a paper and write all the things you’re currently doing that can potentially destroy or harm you in the long run, or you feel are bothering you. ( Write Minimum 5)You’re doing this because many people today don’t know their biggest problems until they write them. Next, ask yourself what will happen if for 20 days you start doing some practical tips, such as:
- eating better,
- Start meditation,
- getting enough sleep to improve energy,
- learn a new skill
- Whatever you’re interested in doing the learning!
How would you feel after these 20 days?
The solution is to break out of that Downfall Cycle.
OBSERVE AND REPORT
You can’t change something if you don’t recognize that there is
something to change.
By simply aware of our negative self-talk,
we begin to distance ourselves from the feelings it brings up.
Without this awareness, we can easily fall into the trap of believing our self-limiting talk.
But let’s not forget THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS!
As soon as you find yourself going down the path of self-doubt,
or criticism, gently analyze what’s happening, be curious about it,
and remind yourself, These are thoughts, not facts.
One of the reasons people have signs of low self-esteem, to begin with,
is due to the thoughts that constantly heckle & harass in their head.
BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF WORTH
Simply make yourself priority some of the time.
- Think of something you want to do, achieve, accomplish.
- Give yourself permission to say no,
- Ask for what you want ASSERTIVELY
(or learn to communicate Assertively if you don’t know already.)
- Create yourself to be in a position to make it happen.
- Be prepared to tolerate disappointing others for the sake of recognizing that you matter and taking care of yourself.
You might be the type of person who constantly says to themselves, nobody loves me, nobody wants to be my friend, I’m worthless, etc.
This type of self-talk is the reason why we feel so poorly about ourselves.
These thoughts over time have convinced you that all of this is true, and that’s because if you listen to the same line over and over again,
you start to believe it.
Sometimes automatic thoughts like ‘you’re fat’ or ‘you’re lazy’ can be repeated in your mind so often that you start to believe they are true.
The more times a thought is repeated,
the more you will believe it to be true.
Self Esteem Books
Here I’ll recommend some of the books I’ve read when I had those
signs of low self-esteem back in 2017 and really impacted me, opened new doors for my mind & how I think and behave.
The Self-Esteem Workbook – Glen
In this book, he talks about how to face the reality of your circumstances and realizing your purpose in life.
Breaking free from toxic environments and forgiving those…including yourself, who’s harmed you… and learning how to guard
yourself against the pitfalls of life.
You Deserve It: The Missing Answer To The Life You Want
by Josh Wagner
I loved the revolutionary 3-step Deserving Process, and he’s sharing
some practical tips you can try right on to improve your self-esteem.
Buy and support the work of bookshop.org because Amazon is becoming one greedy globalist organization.
(I’ve stopped buying from amazon since November 2019)
Self Esteem Quotes
Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others.
Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
– Carl Gustav Jung
“The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.”
– Robert Hand
Eat as you love yourself, Move as you love yourself,
Speak as you love yourself, Act like your love yourself!
You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”
– Yogi Bhajan
Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”
– Roy T. Bennett
Destroy the signs of low self-esteem
People with Good Self Esteem believe they are valuable and important, that’s why they take good care of themselves.
They make good decisions about themselves which raises their value rather than break it down.
When you start to take care of yourself & value yourself, guess what opinion others or most of them will have on You?
That’ll surely help you to go further and create the
best possible Self-Image of yourself.
DEEP DOWN INSIDE YOUR HEART, YOU KNOW
YOU’RE WORTH MUCH MORE
I strongly recommend if you have deeper problems and
signs of low self-esteem, to read –Feeling Good by David Burns.
That was the book that unlocks my self-worth, and
David is a Fenomenal Psychiatrist!
You will learn more about your Thoughts, Emotions,
Behaviors & how it’s all connected with each other.
Share your experience in the comments,
Have you faced some signs of low self-esteem in your life?
similar difficulties… You never know who you might help..
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